Every pregnancy is precious.

Today medical technology provides indepth information about many aspects of pregnancy especially the developing baby and the mother’s health. This can be seen as both a blessing and a curse. Most women take advantage of widely available and affordable testing and results.

Sometimes you may receive information that can bse terribly troubling, confusing and unclear. Delivering bad news is not always a physician’s strong point, especially in the field of obstetrics when a doctor is in business to deliver a healthy baby and have a positive outcome.

If you receive news during your pregnancy that indicates there is a problem you will probably be given different options.

Options vary and are dependent on a number of factors: who is delivering the news to you and their “slant” on what they think you should do, what state you live in and what options are available to you; and your belief system – which may be influenced by your partner, your family history, your religion, to name a few.

Read the articles in this section on both options, carrying to term with a negative pregnancy outcome, and pregnancy termination.

Grieving After a Termination or a Loss After Carrying to Term

It is completely natural to feel sadness and grief after you lose a baby. Even if you make a decision to terminate your pregnancy you are entitled to your reactions and are permitted to grieve. Some women and couples feel that because they decided to terminate their pregnancy they are not allowed to be sad. This is not true! Sometimes your grief reaction may be compounded by feelings of guilt over making this decision.

It is also natural to feel a sense of relief after making a decision to terminate a pregnancy and move beyond the psychological and physical experience without remorse.

ALL REACTIONS AND FEELINGS ARE NORMAL! You should not think you are
crazy for having a wide range of reactions to your loss. And you are not alone.